Dianne Bachman, LCSW

Psychotherapist

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Card of the Day: Trained Extrovert

Posted on March 1, 2016 at 8:55 AM

Today is Tuesday and typically I take Tuesdays and Wednesdays for myself.  It is my rejuvination time, my time away from phones and emails and the demands of a busy psychotherapy practice.  Don't get me wrong, I LOVE MY WORK.  But for me, as an introvert, I must be careful about balance in my life.  I absolutely need a measure of solitude to keep myself on an even keel.  As I grow older, I am more keenly aware of this.

So, the card I drew this morning is a Committee card.  I call her my "Trained Extrovert".  Here she is hunkered down on the couch, nose to the pillows because the extrovert in her, once again, has overstepped the bounds of what is tolerable.  Even the extrovert, dressed in her short sleeve, boardwalk garb is out of her element here in the snowy forest.  One says, "Oh, coffee at 10?  I'd love to!" and the other says, "Oh, please.....clear the room because I am shutting down. I need some quiet space!"

I find this dynamic at play within myself  when I have ignored my instincts and over extend my schedule.  There is part of me that wishes I could go dancing after a long day at the office, or chat for hours, or tolerate the shopping mall for more than 30 minutes.  But then there is the introvert who so needs space and time to smoothe the feathers, shake off the dust and generally refuel.  I am glad to have both in my life, but the key for me is calibrating my activities so there is a balance, a lovely dance of energy that ebbs and flows but respects and nurtures the source of my social self. 

I am celebrating balance today--good morning, Trained Extrovert!  We are off to an excellent start.

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